The Moment I Stopped Fighting for Support and Started Becoming It

There was a time when I believed I had to face everything alone and that no one truly showed up for me in the way I needed. It felt like the world kept reflecting back a painful truth: you’re not supported by your community.

But that belief wasn’t truth. It was resistance; a protective story I once needed, but one that no longer serves the woman I’m becoming.

Recently, I’ve been reflecting on the difference between being unsupported and feeling unsupported. And I realized that much of my pain came not from others’ actions, but from the story I told myself about what their actions meant.

There were moments when people I cared for deeply seemed to create hardships or turn away when I needed them most. My human self wanted to shut down, to close off and say, “See, I knew it…I can’t count on anyone.”

But my higher self whispered something different: “What if this is an invitation to stand taller in love? To send love where pain exists, instead of feeding it?”

So I did. I began to release blame, to soften my heart even when it hurt. I sent love to those who misunderstood me, and compassion to those who were intentionally unkind.

Through this process, I discovered something powerful: radical forgiveness.

Forgiveness not just for others, but for myself. I forgave the version of me that tolerated mistreatment, that stayed silent, that believed she was unworthy of support. I forgave others for playing the roles they did in my awakening.

And with that forgiveness came a deeper understanding…that there is no right or wrong. There just is. Each moment, each person, each challenge was a mirror showing me where I still needed to meet myself with more love.

Every relationship became a reflection, asking: “How are you participating in this story? What beliefs are you still holding that call this experience in?”

These questions didn’t come from judgment, they came from love. Love that wants growth. Love that seeks peace. Love that no longer wants to live in the shadow of old wounds.

I now see that the belief “I will never be supported by people” was a command I gave the Universe and it kept delivering. But I’ve rewritten that command.

My new truth and demand is:

✨ I am supported even if it’s not by everyone.

✨ I am guided, protected, and deeply loved, always.

✨ And I send love to those still learning self-love and self-respect within themselves.

Radical forgiveness freed me from resistance and anchored me in resilience. It showed me that true support begins within.

If this resonates with you, take a moment to check in with your own beliefs.

Where might you still be commanding the Universe to prove your pain instead of your power?

Comment below or share your reflection- I’d love to witness your journey of forgiveness and resilience, too. 💚

With Love, Melissa xx