There was a time when every person who ghosted me or pulled away felt like proof that I wasn’t enough. Each silence replayed the story that love leaves. Each rejection felt like a wound echoing, “You’re too much. You’re not worth staying for.” But through my inner work in the E4 method, deep shadow work, and somatic healing…I began to see it differently.

I realize now not every person who walked away wasn’t abandoning me. They were mirroring back the places I had abandoned myself. They were showing me where I still outsourced my worth, my safety, and my belonging. I realized I had been searching for connection outside of myself…when the real work and message was to come home within.

Now I see those experiences as sacred teachers. Each ghost, each goodbye, each person who chose not to invest in me, was actually giving me the opportunity to invest in myself. They were guiding me to my purpose. My purpose to remember that my wholeness isn’t earned through someone’s presence, but reclaimed through my own.

Healing abandonment isn’t about getting someone back. It’s about no longer leaving yourself behind. No longer contorting yourself to fit someone else’s needs that get triggered by yours. And that’s the heart of the work I now hold space for as a coach; helping others come back home to the one person who will never leave them: themselves.

If this message touched something in you, take a moment to place your hand over your heart and speak aloud, “I choose me.” And if you’re ready to dive deeper into this healing; to release old stories and reconnect to your inner safety, I invite you to work with me 1:1. Let’s walk this homecoming journey together.

With Love, Melissa 🤍

There was a time when I believed I had to face everything alone and that no one truly showed up for me in the way I needed. It felt like the world kept reflecting back a painful truth: you’re not supported by your community.

But that belief wasn’t truth. It was resistance; a protective story I once needed, but one that no longer serves the woman I’m becoming.

Recently, I’ve been reflecting on the difference between being unsupported and feeling unsupported. And I realized that much of my pain came not from others’ actions, but from the story I told myself about what their actions meant.

There were moments when people I cared for deeply seemed to create hardships or turn away when I needed them most. My human self wanted to shut down, to close off and say, “See, I knew it…I can’t count on anyone.”

But my higher self whispered something different: “What if this is an invitation to stand taller in love? To send love where pain exists, instead of feeding it?”

So I did. I began to release blame, to soften my heart even when it hurt. I sent love to those who misunderstood me, and compassion to those who were intentionally unkind.

Through this process, I discovered something powerful: radical forgiveness.

Forgiveness not just for others, but for myself. I forgave the version of me that tolerated mistreatment, that stayed silent, that believed she was unworthy of support. I forgave others for playing the roles they did in my awakening.

And with that forgiveness came a deeper understanding…that there is no right or wrong. There just is. Each moment, each person, each challenge was a mirror showing me where I still needed to meet myself with more love.

Every relationship became a reflection, asking: “How are you participating in this story? What beliefs are you still holding that call this experience in?”

These questions didn’t come from judgment, they came from love. Love that wants growth. Love that seeks peace. Love that no longer wants to live in the shadow of old wounds.

I now see that the belief “I will never be supported by people” was a command I gave the Universe and it kept delivering. But I’ve rewritten that command.

My new truth and demand is:

✨ I am supported even if it’s not by everyone.

✨ I am guided, protected, and deeply loved, always.

✨ And I send love to those still learning self-love and self-respect within themselves.

Radical forgiveness freed me from resistance and anchored me in resilience. It showed me that true support begins within.

If this resonates with you, take a moment to check in with your own beliefs.

Where might you still be commanding the Universe to prove your pain instead of your power?

Comment below or share your reflection- I’d love to witness your journey of forgiveness and resilience, too. 💚

With Love, Melissa xx

For most of my life, I struggled to speak up. Not just in conversations, but in my truth, my needs, and even in my own energy. My throat would tighten, words would vanish, and sometimes, I’d literally cough and choke as if my body was trying to say what my mind couldn’t.

It wasn’t until I started exploring energy healing that I realized this wasn’t just a random symptom…it was my body communicating something deeper. What I didn’t know then was that our voice isn’t only a tool for expression, it’s a sacred channel for truth, power, and lineage.

As I began my Reiki journey, I discovered that healing doesn’t just happen on the surface. We carry the stories, fears, and silenced pain of those who came before us. Generations of our ancestors, especially women, who were taught to stay quiet, to keep the peace, or to survive through silence. That silence lives in our cells. It’s an epigenetic blueprint - an energetic memory of what it meant to not have a voice.

And for me, that energy was literally caught in my throat. Coughing, clearing, hacking; it all made sense once I connected the dots. My body wasn’t malfunctioning, it was speaking. It was releasing. It was telling me to speak up.

When I started using Reiki and other healing modalities to cleanse and protect my energy, something shifted. I began speaking affirmations out loud. I journaled honestly. My values and words spoken out loud aligned. I allowed my truth to vibrate through my body instead of swallowing it. Slowly, my throat softened, my words flowed, and I began to recognize my own voice again.

But it wasn’t until I discovered the E4 Method that everything clicked into alignment. This process took me even deeper, into the emotional roots that were still keeping me small. It helped me face the unspoken pain, the fear of being too much, and the ancestral weight of silence. Through it, I didn’t just find my voice…I embodied it.

Our voice is sacred medicine. Healing isn’t just about speaking louder- it’s about remembering that our truth matters, that our words carry the vibration of freedom, and that by healing our voice, we heal generations of silence before us.

If you’ve ever felt like your throat closes when you try to speak your truth, know that you’re not alone. Your body is communicating, not betraying you.

Comment “VOICE” below if this resonates with your journey.

Or, if you’re ready to explore the E4 Method and your own energetic healing, book a Spiritual Psychology & Somatic Coaching Session with me, where we reconnect the voice, body, and spirit back into harmony.

With Love, Melissa xx

Ancestral Acknowledgement

As we move through this sacred week when the veil between worlds grows thin, I pause to honor and thank my ancestors. To the ones who carried wisdom quietly, who held their truth in secret, who hid their gifts for safety…I see you. To the women and healers who were silenced, shamed, or feared for their power, I honor your strength. I acknowledge the witch wound - the collective imprint of persecution, fear, and suppression that still echoes through our lineage.

May the work I do now - finding my voice, reclaiming my truth, and standing in my light, be an offering of healing back through time. May your wisdom rise again through me and all those who are remembering. We are the ones you dreamed would speak freely. I love you. I am grateful for you. And so mote it be. <3

A few years ago, I saw myself as an empath; the one who feels deeply, gives endlessly, and attracts people who seem to take more than they give. It was easy to label and point fingers to the “narcissist” as the problem, but what if both parties were simply two sides of the same energetic coin?

The more I dove into learning nervous system healing and working with a psychotherapist, the more I began to see the pattern was not about labels…it was about survival responses. Two people subconsciously trying to get their needs met in different ways.

It took me years to finally choose myself. I kept over-giving and trying to be understanding, calm, and loving while the other person’s energy felt demanding, self-focused, and emotionally distant. I used to blame them for stonewalling and being controlling, but later I realized my over-giving was just another form of control…trying to earn love. We were both mirroring each other by seeking safety externally from ourselves.

When I stopped seeing the dynamic of “Good vs. Bad” and started seeing it as a mirror of two souls, two nervous systems in protection mode, things started to shift. It is not about who was right or wrong…it was about understanding what within me was attracted to that energy, and what within them was drawn to mine.

As I learned to go within myself, I was starting to meet my own needs for safety and worthiness. I was realizing I could not seek love outside of myself. When we stop playing the game, others stop showing up to roll the dice.

Every relationship, especially the difficult ones, reveals where we are still seeking wholeness outside of ourselves. The ‘empath’ and ‘narcissist’ both just want to be seen, loved, and safe.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar dynamic? If this resonates, take a deep breath in and ask yourself: “Where in my relationships am I giving or taking from fear rather than connection?”

With Love, Melissa xx