They Walked Away, and I Walked Home to Myself

There was a time when every person who ghosted me or pulled away felt like proof that I wasn’t enough. Each silence replayed the story that love leaves. Each rejection felt like a wound echoing, “You’re too much. You’re not worth staying for.” But through my inner work in the E4 Method, deep shadow work, and Somatic healing…I began to see it differently.

I realize now not every person who walked away wasn’t abandoning me. They were mirroring back the places I had abandoned myself. They were showing me where I still outsourced my worth, my safety, and my belonging. I realized I had been searching for connection outside of myself…when the real work and message was to come home within.

Now I see those experiences as sacred teachers. Each ghost, each goodbye, each person who chose not to invest in me, was actually giving me the opportunity to invest in myself. They were guiding me to my purpose. My purpose to remember that my wholeness isn’t earned through someone’s presence, but reclaimed through my own.

Healing abandonment isn’t about getting someone back. It’s about no longer leaving yourself behind. No longer contorting yourself to fit someone else’s needs that get triggered by yours. And that’s the heart of the work I now hold space for as a coach; helping others come back home to the one person who will never leave them: themselves.

If this message touched something in you, take a moment to place your hand over your heart and speak aloud, “I choose me.” And if you’re ready to dive deeper into this healing; to release old stories and reconnect to your inner safety, I invite you to work with me 1:1. Let’s walk this homecoming journey together.

With Love, Melissa 🤍